I want to help

First things first..

Take any suicidal talk or behavior seriously. It’s not just a warning sign that the person is thinking about suicide—it’s a cry for help. Look for:

  • Any talk about suicide, dying, or self-harm, such as “I wish I hadn’t been born,” “If I see you again…” and “I’d be better off dead.”
  • Seeking access to guns, pills, knives, or other objects that could be used in a suicide attempt.
  • Unusual focus on death, dying, or violence. Writing poems or stories about death.
  • Feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and being trapped (“There’s no way out”). Belief that things will never get better or change.
  • Feelings of worthlessness, guilt, shame, and self-hatred. Feeling like a burden (“Everyone would be better off without me”).
  • Making out a will. Giving away prized possessions. Making arrangements for family members.
  • Unusual or unexpected visits or calls to family and friends. Saying goodbye to people as if they won’t be seen again.
  • Withdrawing from friends and family. Increasing social isolation. Desire to be left alone.
  • Increased alcohol or drug use, reckless driving, unsafe sex. Taking unnecessary risks as if they have a “death wish.”
  • A sudden sense of calm and happiness after being extremely depressed can mean that the person has made a decision to attempt suicide.

Second thing second…

The following articles are posts I’ve written about helping loved ones. They aren’t perfect nor do they encapsulate every experience possible. If you’d like specific help on a specific problem, please let me know below.

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