My eyes finally crack open. I roll over, and grab my phone. It reads 10:30. Shit.
I had planned my whole day, starting at 8:00. I’m already behind. Anxiety sets in.
So I lay there. Feeling the shame and guilt for being so lazy. For not having better self control. All I want to do is lay in bed and hate myself.
And then my counselor Diana, she’s a darling sweet little women, her voice pops into my head. “Is that emotion serving you? Is it getting you where you want to go?”
Nope. Sure isn’t. I wanted to DO things today, and that emotion is completely distracting me from doing anything at all.
So, here’s my question for you today, are your emotions serving you?
Let’s pretend emotions are the driver of your car. They help you get places. (And if you think your emotions aren’t driving your decisions, then you are confused)
Maybe the place you want to go is to work, where you will do a good job.
And you jump in your car and your driver is like, “hmm…..but what happens if we mess everything up today????? And no one likes our ideas. Maybe we should just stay here.”
And you’re sitting in the back seat like, “Well, I guess you’re right.”
So you sit in the driveway, going nowhere. Accomplishing nothing.
Is your driving doing his job? Is he getting you where you want to go?
Nope. He’s acting as fear, and it isn’t serving you.
So what can you do when your emotions aren’t serving you? Maybe fear is telling you that you shouldn’t try a new restaurant. Or maybe shame is telling you that you messed up too much, and now all your friendships are ruined. What emotion is driving your car today?
Whichever is in the drivers seat. Ask yourself, “Is this emotion serving me?”
Maybe anger is driving today. And everything anyone does feels like a personal slight against you. Take a second. Have a conversation with your driver.
YO. WHAT YOU DOING DRIVER. I WANT TO HAVE A NICE DAY. GET IT TOGETHER.
If he doesn’t want to get it together, then fire his ass. Bye felicia.
He isn’t doing his one job. Getting you where you want to go. So you recruit compassion to drive your car today. She drives carefully, considering the drivers around you. Keeping you safe. And happy.
And while there is a place for fear, it’s important to evaluate if fear is serving you. If you’re in a shady relationship and fearful you are in danger, fear is getting you exactly where you need to be. To safety. But if fear is keeping you from feeling peace and enjoying life, it’s not doing it’s job.
So, are you getting where you want to go?